A healthy relationship is what everyone wants to be involved in but it does not just happen like that. There are so many relationships today that just exist by principles, they are just together but no life in it. When a relationship turns sour it becomes merely couple to couple, they are just together without trust, misunderstanding, quarrel, unguided utterances and if nothing is done to salvage such relationship it could break up.
What makes for a healthy romantic relationship varies from one partner to another and forming a trusting and positive partnership takes effort and time. Hear this and take it to heart, it does not just happen overnight. It is an investment that requires time and patience. While investing your time in it, you must employ the following tools which will help you to grow a stronger relationship.
Communication is a vital key that is required in any relationship in order to keep it healthy. But it is very unfortunate that most people don’t know how to communicate properly. Any happy and healthy couple have strong communication skills and terms. They communicate the good and not the bad. They vocalize their love for one another, saying “I love you” often, offering compliments to their partner and discussing the bad, instead of sweeping issues under the rug. In order to move forward and grow as partners, you two need to be able to truly talk about your feelings. No matter how awkward or uncomfortable it feels, it will make for a fulfilling relationship.
To respect your partner can take many forms and if you must maintain a joyful relationship then you must respect your partner’s trust, time, feelings, character and most especially “heart”. I have seen what people do in this age that can cause a total breakdown of respect amongst partners, which includes- name calling, talking negatively about the other to friends or family, threatening to leave the relationship. If you leave, be rest assured that another person is out there waiting to take your place. Don’t allow that to happen.
Quality is better than quantity. You must spend time with your partner and what matters most is the quality of time you spend together. There is a serious difference between having dinner at a table while talking about your day at work and having dinner while sitting on a couch watching the latest episode of a particular movie. So what you do within the frame of time you spend with your partner really matters. At times you go out together not just spending time at home all the time, your home may become too familiar. Also spend some time to study and pray together.
There are various languages for the expression of love which are referred to as LOVE LANGUAGE. Individuals have their own ways of expressing and feeling loved. These include acts of service, physical touch, receiving of gifts, spending quality time amongst others. It is therefore important to know the particular love language that speaks to you, along with your partner’s, although they may be different. Telling each other what makes you feel loved and special helps both of you stay connected. Also make sure you are attending to your partner’s love language consistently.
We easily forget to let other people in our lives know that we appreciate them. Some deliberately throw it into the trash while others just feel it is not necessary. It happens every day in relationships even in romantic ones. Show to your partner that he or she is special, you can do this by words, cards, flowers, acts of kindness, or more. Doing these keeps your relationship alive on a daily basis.
This is purely for the married partners. In cultivating a flourishing relationship, sex is very important and sex is simple because the more you have it, the more you want it. Also the other side of it is true as well. The less you have it, the less you want it. And, unfortunately, the less you feel connected to your partner, problems will follow. Keep your sex life alive and interesting. Spice it up and keep your relationship alive and healthy.